I’m going to start by saying that it’s been about 2 or 3
months since I’ve hypnotized anyone, and maybe only the 4th person I’ve
put under, but as per usual I’ve been studying up. When a friend of mine
expressed that she was stressed out, I gathered my courage and asked if she
would like to try hypnosis to relax.
(Long post under the cut!)
She said that she would, and so I immediately began doing a
subtle bit of pretalk and building rapport, even though we couldn’t do it in
the environment we were in at the time. I talked to her about what hypnosis
was, a little bit what it would feel like, and answered any of the questions
she had. All the while I kept suggesting how easy it was and how many people
were surprised how simple it was to go into a trance. I told her that the
process was fairly automatic, and that since people go in and out of hypnosis
every day (I gave examples as well), her subconscious mind would have no
trouble getting to that state provided the right environment and suggestions. I
also mentioned that I had learned a new technique that was very effective at
putting subjects under. I made a mental note to measure how well she responded
to these “out of trance” suggestions.
I sat her down in a chair and sat across from her. I’m not
going to sugar-coat this – I was more nervous than I’d ever been. But I
remained as calm and confident as I could. The induction I used was an
adaptation of one I’d seen Brian David Phillips do, and I’ll describe it here.
First, I told her that in a few moments I was going to say
the word “sleep” to her, and that her brain would take that as a signal for her
eyes to close and for her whole body to relax. Then, I took her left hand in
mine. Casually I asked, “Oh, are you a righty or lefty?” She replied that she
was a righty, and then I switched hands. (I love this misdirection technique!
No matter what they say, you switch hands, don’t explain it, and they just have
to wonder why it’s so important.) Then I told her to look at my eyes (I pointed
where to look), and to just take a few deep breaths. I stared right between her
eyes and monitored what her face was doing. At first I could tell she was
biting her lip with a bit of nervous laughter, so I gave her a bit of
relaxation and focus patter, interspersed with breathing. I then suggested that
she match her breaths with mine. (As a note, this was a bit impractical and I
should have just stuck with matching my breathing with hers.)
I watched her face closely, especially her eyes, and when
her pupils began to expand slightly and her eyelids looked like they wanted to start closing, I went for it. The moment of truth! “Sleep,” I said to her, pulling
gently on her arm, and down she went, her eyes closed and her head fell forward
and I felt like I had just won a million dollars.
I went immediately into patter on semi-autopilot, being sure
to let her know that she was doing perfectly the whole time. And she was,
despite a nervous smile at the beginning. But I knew that if I let her know
that that sort of thing was acceptable and desireable she would have no problem
going a little deeper.
Congrats! Rapids are a little tricky to master, since they're very all-or-nothing and opportunities to practice don't come up until you have regular subjects. I know from experience that there are few feelings more exciting than getting a rapid right for the first time. :)
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